An essential problem with trying new things is that for many people, myself included, we are afraid to actually take action. Fear of failure can lead to action paralysis that keeps us from achieving our dreams. If we try, we might fail, and then we’ve invested time and energy into failing. And if we fail, what does that mean about who we are?
Confession Time: I Fear Failure
I will be the first to admit I have no idea what I am doing. I’ve read articles, watched videos, brainstormed, talked things through, and I’m still not sure. I’m terrified and elated and exhausted and psyched. Maybe this was all just a huge mistake. Another large expense I can’t really afford to teach myself a life lesson to maybe not do that thing that seems like a good idea at the time. On the other hand, maybe this is the start of something wonderful and life-changing.
I told myself I would do this right. I researched what people who run blogs do, came up with topics, and developed a tentative content calendar. Despite that, I’ve missed my first two deadlines. And in missing those deadlines, it has stressed me out so much I’m having more trouble sleeping than usual. Unsurprisingly, not meeting my deadlines increased my fear of failure around having a blog. So I used one of my favorite techniques to stop beating myself up: a reset.
All of my previous goals are erased in favor of a new goal. That new goal? Post something in January 2020. Anything. Motivating enough? Not necessarily – I spent today watching Chilling Adventures of Sabrina on Netflix (great show if you’re into that genre). It’s almost midnight, but I’m determined. I like to tell myself that it doesn’t matter how small a step forward you take, as long as you take it. We’ll see, and I hope to get to know you better!
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